My younger self was surprised by personality changes and my current self is unfazed.  It’s saddening to see a person you grew with at one point in your life become someone else you can’t relate to.  But in my opinion, if there are people who try really hard to keep you in the dark, they really didn’t want you apart of their lives and it’s okay to faze them out too.  Life’s too short to accommodate toxic and shady people.

I think this is applicable to any relationships.  I think so many of the times we’re taught and hounded to forgive others. I believe in forgiveness  when wrongful actions are backed up with a sincere apology but also changing actions.  In our world, we quickly and easily wash mean behavior with a quick sorry.  If it was that why doesn’t the hurt feelings disappear just as easily?  We are supposed to draw a boundary between toxic romantic relationships, but friends and blood are supposed to be forever even if they mistreat and abuse you.  I don’t get why any toxicity gets a pass in any form.

I’ve experienced friends who block me out of aspects of their life but want to be a part of every detail and in the know of mine.  So I said no more.  I’ve seen friends and family put in minimum effort while I was giving my all, and I had to stop myself from overworking for some who are undeserving.  I was partaking in stressing myself out trying to appease the changed people, honoring their past treatment towards me and overlooking what was right in front of me.

Essentially, it was about me letting go of what I remembered about people and acceptinf them for who they are now.  It’s still a sad reality, but I’d rather face reality than make myself miserable trying to keep people who aren’t worthy of my time in my life.  I’d rather be reading a book in a hot tub, or in Hawaii... or both!